Jump the "ship" in Relationship and Save Yourself.



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By Addison Tower

It is funny how one relationship can consume your whole life, and not in a good way. I am talking about the unhealthy kind of relationship that once used to build you up, but now it only breaks you down. You have been used to it for so long, and you are in it so deep that you do not know anything else. You keep on making excuses for your significant other's behavior, when others-like your family and friends-point out that there is nothing significant or special about it at all. Then, you begin to notice that you are not the same person anymore, and when you wake up, you do not love what you see reflecting back at you. Your pictures are somewhat of a lie. Your relationship is not picture perfect. Its imperfections are shining through all over your face when you look at yourself. Then, you have the sweetest realization. You decide that you are better than this, you deserve better than this, and that you have been in this for way too long. He is not going to change. It is exactly what it is. Now, you think to yourself: "This time it's all about me. I'm taking ME back, and I won't ever look back."


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Healthy dating & relationships: The three categories of sexual intercourse. Which is for you?

Here is great advice on how to distinguish the differences between the three levels of sexual intercourse. What level are you on presently? Do you want to change this level? These are questions to ask yourself if you want or would like to remain maintaining healthy dating, relationships and sexual encounters. Please read the following from our fabulous friend Addison Tower:

"Personally, I believe the act of sex versus love making is very different. I have only had sexual intercourse with one person in my life, that being my ex of Two and a half years. I don't have a lot of sexual experience in dealing with intercourse with men to base my ideals off from, but being with a person for Two and a half years works just as well. I believe that with my ex we have had both sex and love making, and another. Actually, there are three categories of sexual intercourse; love making-the one we all try to achieve, sex-the act of just doing it to be physically connected, and excuse the language, but f**king-sexual intercourse in an animalistic way. Love making is the most intimate version of sexual intercourse. You are totally at peace with yourself and your partner in every position. You aspire to make the other person feel euphoria, and you put their needs before your own. You feel intertwined in every way possible-by the heart, the mind, and the soul. It's very deep and overwhelming. It's the best way to experience a world outside of your own, as a couple and as an individual. Sex is the routine way of getting down to it. This type of sexual intercourse is usually done during a busy week, whether it is with the office or with school. Every move tends to be down pack, and both of you achieve orgasm in a very timely manner. It's a hit and a home run, and you're done. This type of sexual intercourse tends to be done just to relieve tension, and to connect for a few minutes during the busy week. The final type of sexual intercourse, f**king, is the most rough way of getting down to it. It doesn't matter if you're having a busy week, if your partner turns over at 4:30am and wants a quickie, or if you’re vacuuming your house in your cotton dress and pearls and your husband comes home early. It's the animalistic drive that gets you going. One look, one touch, one feeling can get you going. You want to be really physical, be rowdy, and be aggressive. This is when I like to use the phrase, "go hard or go home," because that's exactly what is expected. Anyone can f**k or have sex, but it takes true individuals that have matured as a couple together to achieve the act of love making. You know you have made love when you feel the divine spirit between the two people."-Addison Tower


Thank you Addison for sharing! We hope this helps readers of all walks of life. Thoughts?


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Steps to Healthy dating: Stop filling voids & act on Self-respect.

By Briana Booker

Often during the day, I start thinking about life experiences or random thoughts in my head. I often put these remarks on social networks. Today, I put up a topic about not rushing into things when dating. It is the best advice you will ever hear from me that deals with dating. It is true. How are you going to do anything intimate and not feel vulnerable, with someone you barely know? You would be lying to say you could...every experience changes us in life no matter how large or small.

Words of Wisdom from a beloved friend.
Today, my fabulous friend Addison Tower gave me the best advice on waiting to have sex with someone and maintaining self-respect for yourself! When you settle for less in self-respect it is because you are trying to fill a void! Trust me, lowering your standards will not make you feel any better at the end of the day or 15 years from now. You have to fill that void by finding security in yourself.

Please read the following from my friend Addie. Let us know your thoughts:

"No strings attached sex is bullshit. Someone always gets attached, whether it is the guy or the girl. So if my thing is, if you are going to have sex,whether you are a guy or a girl, you better: 

1. Make sure you have documented proof that the person you are going to sleep with is 100% clean and that you are too. No more nasty dangerous stuff needs to be spread around in this world & don't be a p*ssy, man up and get tested. If you have any doubts and you are too scared to get tested, then you should not be messing around with anyone anyways.
2. Be honest with yourself, whether you are a guy or a girl. could you truly be ok emotionally and physically, after you sleep with the person? If you have any doubts that this would shake your character or that it would put your morals/values into question, then don't do it.

3. Tell the person you are with what you need/want from them, within reason. If they can not give it to you, then do not even waste your time. Life is too short, and they are probably too shady at that point.

 Oh and P.S.-whether you are sexually promiscuous or not,

I've never a met a sexually promiscuous person that is actually OK with themselves, whether they are a guy or a girl. They are clearly behaving that way because they need to fill a void, they have a problem with intimacy, and/or they need a lot of attention.  

I know everyone gets horny and sexually frustrated from time to time, so learn to handle it yourself. There's nothing wrong with that-it's disease free and it can't get you/anyone else pregnant. 

Bottom line: Don't be a man whore or a woman whore. No one likes a whore. It's a sign of weakness. To the men out there, it really is a sign of weakness, not power. Having the self respect and self restraint makes you much more appealing to a woman. Actually, that applies to women too.


Those are my beliefs/morals/values...it has always kept me safe/clean and respected. You have the power to teach people how they will treat you. I am all about self respect. If you don't have it, then how can you expect anyone to respect you? You can't. The world doesn't work like that. Every man/woman for himself. Self advocate and be your own best friend. I wouldn't have it any other way. " ~Addison Tower