Collective Reform: Boundaries in Dating means healthy dating.

By Briana Booker

On Fromgirltogirl we are making a movement on healthy dating. No hanging out. No booty calls. No friends with benefits. No insecure dates or stalkers. I am going to use myself and my friends as the lab rats. Our generation has fallen short in that department. It is like going to the grocery store searching for valued goods and realizing anything of value worth taking is out of stock! Anything sitting around, the vultures and cougars are on the prowl. Who wins? None really.

If you do win, it is only temporarily. People might be upset I am saying this but would you rather hold on to the illusion that you are not wasting your time and effort on a ride getting to know where?

 Here we can start a reform. We can change the lack of valor in the dating department for ourselves and future generations. And it starts with yourself. Stop settling for less. Stop thinking you will be let down. Stop expecting someone to make you happy. Allow them to be complimentary to your happiness. The past of horrible dating can only strangle you and hold you back if you let it hold you back. Wake up.

It is not the end of the world. Females and males treat you how you let them treat you! Period.

Advice on the way...but check out this book for now, great read:

Announcement: Call for Stories! Get published! Share your dating tips do's and don'ts!

Jess McCann, the fabulous dating coach we interviewed in February, wants YOUR input! We welcome all our wonderful and fierce readers to contact McCann about all your dating up and downs! What has worked? What has not worked?

Life is a big learning experience! We can all learn from one another! Please share! If chosen, your experience can be published in her up and coming book!

The details are below! Enjoy.

Announcement:

"Dear friends, and family,


This summer as things begin slowing down for some of us, and heating up for others, I wanted to invite you to take a moment to share your dating stories with me. Between writing for Washington Life, and getting ready to start my next book, I am seeking out experiences, and memories, you have had in your search for your perfect mate.





Have any of the following ever happened to you?





- Going to the second location - Instead of saying goodnight after dinner, you ended up back at his place.

- Dating the jerk and being in the jerk phase - How did you break free and what can you share with other women in their jerk phase?

- finding the guy that lets you know all Y chromosomes aren't all bad: the good guy who opened your eyes

- The burning question to a past relationship

- How you have dug into his past without overstepping his boundaries





Anything that you think might be interesting- I am interested in. This is your chance to pass on what you've learned or get your questions answered from an expert. If your story is used, I will contact you with my two cents.





And don't worry, I value my privacy and promise to respect yours- this means that no, your name will not be used if you do not wish.





I look forward to reading about your relationship encounters, and sincerely appreciate your taking the time to write to me!





Have a wonderful summer,





Jess McCann





Send all emails to: coach@jessmccann.com with Call For Stories in the subject line ."

Must reads: Jess McCann "You Lost Him at Hello."

Sick of hearing advice from single people that never works? Then check out Jess McCann! She has a man. She has a great career! And she is tremendously confident!

McCann is a dating coach and today she was on News Channel 8 in Washington, DC! She gave advice on Valentines day that we think all men and women should hear about! Here are five tips she gave today:

1. Go to happy hour during the times of 5pm to 9pm. She snagged her soon to be husband this way! McCann says that a man with a go getter attitude and a solid career usually attends happy hour earlier than later. A guy that goes later during happy hour most likely has nothing better to do in the morning and might not have a stable income or be emotionally stable ! This is definitely a no,no!

2. This is not the 1950's let a guy know you are interested! Smile and give eye contact... do not be shy! The early bird always catches the worm! Go out and pursue your guy! Make him feel wanted, he does not have to do all the work!

3. Pursue what you want out of a relationship,not just what you want out of a guy or girl!

4.  Change your actions so that you can change your results into positive outcomes in your relationships! If you like complaining about every little thing, then stop! You and your potential interest will never live happily ever after if you nag and complain 24-7! Relationships are built on sacrifice and team work!

5. Stop listening to people with a trend in bad relationships! And definitely stop listening to your single friends! How are you going to find someone to be happy with listening to people who are in the same predicament as you! Think about it!

6. If you are single on valentines day, don't whine about it! You can always go on a date with someone you are not too serious with and have fun! Nothing wrong with being single!

7. Love yourself and someone will learn to love you back!

8. Balance friendship and romance!

9. Check out Jess McCann's Blog!

10. Buy McCann new books " You Lost Him at Hello," for more useful tips! It's on amazon now for $10.17!